Why you must wait until you are married before you have sex

Two Sundays ago, I preached on the Great Commission and said that Discipleship will mean challenging people about things they don’t want to be challenged about. I said

“Teaching people to obey Christ will mean being willing to challenge and correct.  You will not always be popular. In fact, you will often be unpopular for it.  You will have to say deeply uncomfortable things to people

‘No, you cannot date a non-Christian’

‘I know you will find this hard but God calls you to stay with your husband/wife through good times and bad and not give up on your marriage.’

‘You must wait until you are married before you share a bed together.’

‘What you are doing/saying is dishonest. You need to fess up and tell the truth even if it will make life awkward for you.’

‘What you just told those three people in your small group ‘in confidence for prayer’ was in fact gossip and it has to stop.’

And we could go on.  Each time, you will be challenging people about difficult things. You will be concerned about the danger of legalism, that they just try to follow some rules. They will be overwhelmed thinking that it is impossible to change…”

I thought it would be useful to pick up on a couple of those statements and explain a bit more about why they are important to discipleship.[1] As soon as we challenge believers about things like dating, sex and relationships, we are going to be accused of “laying down the Law” and if we are challenged on those things then we are going to feel like we are being subject to Legalism.

Here I want to deal with the whole question of dating and sex. Continue reading

Planning, Integrity and true Purity (Proverbs 16)

Anyone been for a health check-up recently?  Eyes, teeth, heart … maybe the full MOT.  How did you get on?

Have you ever done one of those life check-ups? How’s your overall well-being? This isn’t just your physical health but how are you doing emotionally, is your life a success, what’s your status -financial prosperity etc?

One of the things that God’s Word does for us as we gather each Sunday is it provides a life check-up. Earlier this year we did a “whole church health-check when we looked at Revelation 2-3. This one is a bit more about each of us as individuals. So how are we doing against the following markers of a “healthy life.” Continue reading